Hello Blog. I’m back, for awhile at least. I had to drop out of a lot of things for the last while. I’ve been battling adversity – pain, fear, health, time, strength, distance, worry… I’ve thought about you here and there with snippets of posts that I had composed in my head. But our life journey has changed and blogging has become a luxury for me now. Cancer in the family changes everything, but we’re in remission now and normalcy is required again. So, it’s good to see you again Blog.
As I’m sure my vast readership can attest, when ‘life happens’ it’s usually a cause for reflection. And as I have returned to my dusty blog, I looked at my tagline and realized that it was in need of an update. While ‘people’ and ‘priorities’ have always been the main drivers of what I do both at home and work, it was naive of me not to outrightly state them. But really, I never thought of it because I was in a pretty good place and maybe just a bit complacent.
One of the legacies of recent months is that I have become more overt in recognizing and supporting the people in my world. I watched my husband fight the battle of his life – literally. I watched my three boys be towers of strength and acutely vulnerable in the blink of an eye. I watched my mom put her own life on hold to come to our house each week to just keep us going. (And dad bach’ed it! Yay take out!) And I watched our family and friends look at us with sympathy and pain in their eyes offering their best wishes and support. So in the immediate face of that simultaneous distress and resiliency, I have become more deeply aware of the importance of devoting energy to what is truly important and that the people in your world.
It’s interesting how this has translated into my work role. I’ve changed jobs and am doing more work with kids and families in crisis. (More on that in a different post.) I’m finding that I am far more direct with parents, and sometimes colleagues, than I was before. People don’t have time to be wrapped up in their pride or put their heads in the sand when kids are involved. I’m more assertive with parents in helping them realize the realities of their child’s emotional crisis. I’m not afraid to tell an administrator that they must spend some money on assessment or consultant services for a student. And even tougher is to say directly to a parent that they need to be a healthy mom/dad if they want to raise a healthy son/daughter. There’s no time to fool around because you don’t know how much time you have and you don’t really know the damage done.
So my tagline needed a refresh. I’m feeling a little refreshed. You can be sure that the view of the people and priorities in my life has been refreshed and that things just aren’t quite the way they used to be. It’s much more about family and memories now. We’re still negotiating our new normal. And normal is good.